Many people are extremely alarmed to look for seek out the help of a therapist. One of the reasons for this reticence s that theyre not sure what to expect. That is why I have written this article; to advise you of the common marriage counseling questions that you will be encounter
As humans, we have a inclination to not question the things that we should be questioning. For example, is it possible that you may not really have taken the time you should have done to get to the bottom of what the problem actually is in your marriage in the 1st place?
A good proportion of us think that we have, but it turns out we really haven't. We only see the outward materialization of the bigger problem. For example, chances are you aren't going crazy every time your husband leaves the toilet seat up just because that is such a big issue.
More than likely your reaction is more basic, more primal. Every time he leaves the toilet seat up you view it as a lack of consideration for you and your feelings. This perceived lack of consideration that you sense from your husband is the real issue, not the toilet seat. Make sense?
That is what the marriage counseling questions are all about. It is crucial that the counselor get to the nub of the problems, the real issues. If you don't really know what it is yourself, how can you tell the counselor and how can they help you work on it?
So, here are some frequently asked questions that many counselors will ask you and your partner to answer in your own words:
1. What are the problems or issues that made you decide to go to counseling? This question will be asked of both partners. If you listen you may just be astonished at how diverse your understandings of the problems in your marriage and your spouses perceptions of the challenges are.
This will provide the therapist with a starting point. They will understand what each of you see as the problem as well as see where the two of you are deviating in your opinions of what the problems are.
2. Which one of these issues do you see as the most crucial? This will allow the counselor to work out what you consider to be the most difficult issue to overcome. This knowledge will make it easier for them to focus in on those issues.
Instead of taking a lot of time wandering around in the dark, the counselor will have a much improved idea of what both of you see as the issue(s) that are ripping your marriage asunder.
Once they know where to focus their attention, they may be able to help you start locating possible solutions much more efficiently.
Now that you know what common questions you are likely to be asked by your therapist, you can take some time to think about the issues in more depth.
Doing that will make it easier for you to accurately answer the questions when the counselor asks them. That can save you all a little time.
So, take some time and figure out how you would answer these common marriage counseling questions now.
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Monday, 12 December 2011
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